What You Give.

Not everyone who stays is staying because they truly value who you are. Some people stay because of convenience. Some stay because of the attention you give them. Some stay because of the help, opportunities, favors, or emotional support they receive. Others stay because they enjoy your presence but have no intention of building a deeper connection.

This realization has made me reflect on the people in my life and the role I play in those relationships.

I show up. I listen. I remember details. I celebrate birthdays. I help when I can. I try to add value and make people feel seen. Those are good qualities, but they also raise an important question:

Do people appreciate me, or do they appreciate what I provide?

The answer is not always obvious.

So I carried out a test to initiate a little less attention and nurture. Give a little less. Remain warm, respectful, and consistent, but allow space for others to contribute. Then observe.

Who reaches out?

Who remembers?

Who invests?

Who asks about your life?

Who shows up when they need nothing from you?

Over time, actions reveal intentions.

Not everyone who enjoys your company belongs in your future. Some people are companions for a season. Some are lessons. A few become true friends, partners, and allies.

The goal is not to make everyone stay.

The goal is to become clear enough that the people who stay are staying because of your character, your values, your vision, and who you truly are—not simply because of what you give them.

Grateful for abundance.